I have a "friend" who called me today upset about something rather trivial to do with her boyfriend(he somkes, and she doesn't like it). I tried to reason with her, and give her advice and all she could say was "I am trying, but its really getting on my nerves, its almost a deal breaker!" all of this after just yesterday she is talking about them being married in a matter of months!
By the time we got off the phone I was irritated at her ignorance, and lack of empathy, and it occured to me she has never had to support someone or walk a path of dificulty with anyone as a partner ever! her solution seems to be, if it doesn't benifit me, if it isn't the way I like it eithier it changes or I leave it. And she is lucky enough to have family to carry her through.
That got me to thinking, about my marriage, and my life and I realized that I used to be just that way about 10 years ago. I think there comes a time in a relationship or in life where you find yourself down and out, hopeless, whatever it may be.......and NO ONE can pick you up and save you from your troubles, and if you are lucky enough to have a partner you can lean on, you do, and if your partner needs you to pull them through the fire....YOU DO IT its not about how hard it is, its not about the hopelessness, its about your life or that person being worth it, no matter what!
I guess what it boils down to is: I've commited to something bigger than me, my family! and Nothing will ever make me give up, ever!
What do you think? have you become a diffrent person? are you less selfish? have you ever questioned if you had what it takes left in you? I know I have!
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